Mother's day

Happy May everyone! I know its been a while since I have updated, but I sure hope to have some good news to share within the next few days. Baby boy Heselton is due at any moment to make his entrance into the world, though I'm not "due" until Friday my big hopes are that he will be here soon. I'll be honest, at this point in the game I'm just ready to meet our son and NOT be pregnant anymore. Yeah, I said it. I'm over it.

That being said, since it IS May I have had a few other extras to focus on. One of them being my mom's birthday (Happy Birthday Mommy!!!) and the other being Mother's Day. Its the bane of all husbands and the joy of most mother's to celebrate. Sunday happens to be that day. Part of me thinks it would be wickedly cool to have a Mother's Day baby. Wouldn't that be the ultimate gift?! I was honestly hoping for today though, since its my moms' birthday. I thought it would be an awesome way to celebrate the circle of life, but I guess he had other plans. (I still have about an hour, but unless I have an insanely fast labor, that won't be happening!!)

Back to the original intent of the post, and that was to talk about Mother's Day. I wanted to talk about the fact that there are groups of women that are so often overlooked on Mother's Day. This post is dedicated to them.  I know several of them myself and I think about them often.

First lets address the moms that are not mothers in they physical sense, but in the spiritual sense. I know one of them myself and have acted in this capacity on many occasions for girls at camp, church and just in life. These women deserve to be recognized too. They may not be your biological mothers, but they help to mold and guide young people into who they become as adults. Often times they help to shape the ideals of our youth into something spectacular that only someone who isn't a biological mother can do.

Now let's address those moms who are struggling to become moms. You know the one's I'm talking about. Moms who are navigating the adoption system just so they can make their family whole in some regard. You ladies ALSO need some serious recognition. Often times these moms are foster parents right down in the trenches with the rest of us, focusing on the lives of children who are extremely broken when they come to them. If they aren't acting in the capacity of mom as a foster parent, they are waiting for their hearts to not be so broken by their child who may be far away. Sometimes as far away as half a world. I also know moms like this, and to you I also say I am thankful!

There are the moms that are struggling to become a mom through fertility treatments too. These moms shouldn't be ignored either. You do so much to make your family complete and ignoring the fact that you are a mother too is not fair. Especially when often times it is a struggle that only the couple themselves can see. You're still a mom in my book, even if your child isn't here yet.

Finally there are those moms who suffer from loss. Be it the loss of a child at birth, while pregnant, or from some other tragic circumstance I think of you too. I have been on both sides of that fence. Its an ugly and dark place, but you deserve to be acknowledged in some way too. Your pain shouldn't be ignored on the account of those of us who have our "Happy" endings. You are still a mother.

My point of this post is to just make you aware. I read a post this week from another blogger and it really hit home about how often Mother's Day overlooks select groups of mothers. I'm not here to diminish the pride that women who are out fighting the battles daily with their own child should feel, but to put a bug in your ear to get you to think. I always make note to acknowledge loss moms on Mother's Day, but I too am guilty of forgetting the other groups of women. I have been on both sides of the fence on several of these regards (minus the foster/adoptive parent) and have often felt overlooked for what I was facing. Women are all special, especially those who take the time to love other children that are not there "own." Why shouldn't we celebrate all of them in some regard??